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Your Comfort Zone is Holding You Back!

2/20/2019

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Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new. Brian Tracy

According to Wikipedia, the comfort zone is defined as “a behavioral state within which a person operates in an anxiety-neutral condition, using a limited set of behaviors to deliver a steady level of performance.” Wow! Notice those words; anxiety-neutral, limited and steady. Does that sound like a place you can flourish and be your best self?

As a very young child, we develop patterns, routines and thoughts that become deeply rooted survival mechanisms. They have shaped our character, how we show up in this world and the types of decisions we make. For example, if you grew up in a house that was always loud, chaotic and unpredictable, you will either recreate that in your adult life, because it's your comfort zone or you will swing to the opposite end of the spectrum and be rigid, controlled and ultra-organized. Either way, your experiences as a child have created your reality as an adult.

My comfort zone was all about having control and portraying an image of perfection. I upheld that for years. For others, it may be staying in a dysfunctional relationship because dysfunction is all you've ever known. I once had a conversation with a young guy, probably around 24, who had been in a relationship for 3 years. His partner wanted marriage and kids. He knew she was not the one. However, he was more fearful of ending it and moving on than he was of staying in an unhappy relationship. It had become comfortable and he wasn't willing to get uncomfortable. But there's a cost to staying comfortable.

When we're comfortable, we are not learning or growing. We're not having the necessary difficult conversations with ourselves and others. Pause for a moment to reflect on your routines, daily thoughts and your choices. Are you noticing a pattern? Do you feel like Bill Murray in Groundhog Day? It's shocking, right?

  • Relationships: Are your relationships serving you? Are they meaningful? Do they challenge you? Is there open communication and healthy boundaries? Do those people light you up?
  • Career: Are you happy and fulfilled in your job? Are you constantly learning new skills and growing? Do you have a clearly defined career trajectory or goal? Do you love waking up and doing your life's work? Does it fill your cup?
  • Habits: Do you make a practice of trying new things, whether it be food, activities or people? Are you finding ways to grow yourself daily? Are you actively learning new skills?

You are only confined by the walls you build yourself. You can survive in your comfort zone, but if you truly want to thrive, you must be willing to get uncomfortable. Are you willing to step outside those walls and see what wonderful things are on the other side? This week, challenge yourself to change at least one thing and watch the magic unfold.

Here's to another week of living your life by design, not by default!

1 Comment
Andi
2/21/2019 07:30:35 pm

That definition of comfort zone is definitely attention grabbing! Wow!

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    Terica was a struggling single mom with a thriving professional career but realized she was emotionally, physically, and mentally bankrupt. It took her losing two loved ones nine days apart to realize she was not living her life. She wasn't even in the back seat...she was in the trunk! She has radically transformed her life by taking inspired action from that place of darkness and now shares these life lessons with other people, so they too can intentionally create the person they want to be and build the life they dream about living, as Terica has! 

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