Stop Forcing Things

Are you what some would call determined, strong-willed or maybe even stubborn? Ya, me too lol. While it has served me in many aspects of my life, it has also taken me down some rabbit holes.

I've realized in that determination, I have at times put on blinders. I was so attached to achieving my desired outcome, I didn't even realize I was forcing something to happen my way, instead of letting it unfold the way it was meant to. 

This goes for all aspects of our lives; money, job/career/business, relationships, friendships, etc. When we try to force these things, it usually ends in us feeling frustrated, depleted and at times, even insecure. Forcing love leads to resentment, forcing success leads to anxiety, forcing respect leads to anger and hurt.

Forcing things to happen also subconsciously says you're not enough. You may have gotten what you wanted, but it typically ends in you feeling inadequate and unworthy, because it didn't come to you freely.

Whereas, on the other hand, you can step back into freedom, calm and presence and allow what's meant for you. Everything always has a way of working out the way it should. The problem is, we often get in the way.

When looking for a new job or applying for a promotion, stand in your power, knowing that the right one will find you. Trust me, you would rather not be picked for the wrong job, because ultimately it won't result in your fulfillment and happiness.

Same with relationships and friendships, if it's uncomfortable and you have to force it, then it's not meant for you. Seek out those relationships that are easy and flow naturally. The ones that just click from the beginning.

This year, I've been really focused on stepping back, letting go and surrendering to what will be. I've also done a lot of inner work around being open to receiving, which I'll talk more about next week. Instead of forcing things, I have simply set intentions for my desires. I can tell you, the shift is unbelievable and amazing to witness.

Instead of New Year's resolutions, I set intentions for 2019 and then I let go of any expectations of how it "should be" and I surrendered. Before the end of March, three of my desires became a reality. And not because of anything I did. I set the intention and then just followed my intuition and what felt right. In all three cases, it led me straight where I needed to be.

In making this shift, I have found there is much more calm, peace and freedom in allowing what is meant for me instead of forcing what is not. This week, where can you let go, stop forcing things and just be? Be in presence, be in love, be in compassion, be in freedom and see what magic unfolds.
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Here's to another week of living your life by design, not by default!